You Are So Lazy! .....Stop Being Lazy!!.... Sound Familiar?? It’s a phrase (amongst many others) many of us have heard, from parents, teachers, bosses, or even from ourselves. It isn’t feedback or guidance; it’s judgment. And when repeated often enough, especially in childhood, it echoes for years. Instead of describing a moment, it becomes an identity, something we carry, something that shapes how we see ourselves. As a counsellor, I’m mindful about what I share. Personal di