Self‑abandonment isn’t about dramatic choices or “not loving yourself enough.” It’s a nervous‑system pattern where you disconnect from your own needs, feelings, or limits in order to stay safe, accepted, or avoid conflict. It’s common in people who grew up with unpredictability, criticism, emotional inconsistency, or environments where their needs weren’t recognised. Understanding self‑abandonment helps you notice when you’re leaving yourself behind and how to come back. What