You try. You genuinely try. You use the tools, practise the skills, breathe, pause, reflect, communicate, regulate, and show up. You do the work. And still, things feel hard. Still, you feel overwhelmed, stuck, misunderstood, or like you’re “back at the beginning.” When this happens, it’s easy to assume you’re failing. But here’s the truth you may need to hear, sometimes the issue isn’t you, it’s the environment you’re in. Your nervous system cannot heal in environments that