We talk a lot about “being capable” as if capability is the whole story. But capability is only half the picture. The other half, the one most people never learned to honour, is capacity . Understanding the difference between the two can soften shame, reduce self‑blame, and help you make sense of why some days feel impossible even when you “should” be able to cope. Capability: What You Can Do in Theory Capability is your skillset, your knowledge, your experience, your strengt